10 Dec The Art of Saying No
December has arrived and the festive season is in full swing. I won’t lie…I absolutely love this time of year. (Yes, I am one of those people who beams with excitement when it comes time to put up the Christmas tree and loves hearing Christmas carols in the supermarket).
With all the excitement and festivity that this time of year brings, there’s also a lot of saying “yes”. Just about everybody seems to do it. Yes to the mums at school who asked you to supervise the end of year excursion, to your boss who asked you to submit that project at an earlier deadline. To your parents AND in-laws who both want to stay at your place over Christmas. To your neighbours who’ve asked you to mind their dog while they’re away over the holidays. Or to every single event that’s on your calendar. The list goes on! Saying yes just seems so much easier. The same also goes for all the food and drinks that we’re offered at this time of year. It can be hard not to feel pressured into having just “one more drink” or “one more slice of cake”.
In this day and age, many of us seem to equate saying no to disappointing others, missing out…and ultimately being a bit of a failure of a human being. Guess what? NOT TRUE! You are the most important person in your life. If you honestly feel like you just can’t commit to something and want to say no…please don’t feel bad about being honest and saying that two letter word. It’s so important to take proper care of yourself. Especially during all the fun and festivities of the holiday season.
So, what fabulous things could you be doing instead of saying yes all the time? Here are just a few ideas:
- Having a lovely quiet night at home…perhaps with Netflix or your favourite book (…or your favourite Christmas movie)
- Taking a stroll in the glorious sun
- Having a nice long bath
- Putting on your favourite song and dancing about the house
- Going to bed early / staying in bed later / taking a nap
- Sitting still and actually just doing nothing!
So, next time someone asks you to do something and you simply don’t feel like you can or want to, don’t feel bad about being honest. Remember, those who matter don’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter. I highly encourage you to go out and practice your “no” muscle. It’ll get stronger the more you use it!